A fictional Letter about a Southern Mom!
I wrote this letter in a class about how to create your own one man show. It is fictional to a degree but really is a reflection of feelings and emotions and some truths about my youth. I heard Adam Corolla go off on Occupy and what has been happening in the world, and part of it was about how in the real world you do not get parents who tell you how special you are or how pretty you are. The reality is my parents never gave me those kinds of lies. My teachers did. I always did well in school. I had employers who told me back east especially about how good I was at this or that. And here in Cali, at one point I had casting agents tell me how much they admired me for my work ethic on a set. I find it a joke now at how easy it is for people in our country to be mislead about the truth by a fog of the media or gossip or how they think things work, especially in the industry I love- acting. Anyways this letter is a letter about what it was like to have a mother who made me feel like being a woman was not a good thing and that is was not possible for me to do anything I wanted to do. THANK YOU MARYLAND FOR HAVING AWESOME TEACHERS!
“I was two when she first told me you can’t be who you want to be. I was only two.
How could she see my future?
How could anyone know what another person, especially a child can do.
We are each blank pages when we are born imprinted with a genetic code that determines how tall I would grow, my dress and shoe size, and the colors of my eyes.
How could my mother tell me I would have to give up trying to succeed?
I’m a girl so of course I suck at sports! I’m female so forget about doing math. What never made sense to me at all was how she would want me to give up writing poetry and try to be a doctor? I mean if I’m female I can’t achieve what men can do. I’ve got to get married and have kids. Oh yeah and I want you to be a doctor too. Doesn’t medical school require all the things my mom kept telling me only men can do? PLEASE!
Makes zero sense to me.
The Biggest hypocrisy of our society is how we still claim we are a free country yet women still make less than men, have their careers cut short at 40 and basically are still not quite on the same level as men. And my own mother pointed this out to me with her attempt to make me give up being me.”
(I have to add that in this past year my mom told me she did not want me to get married ever. Made me feel like I am their slave and possession and it is abuse and I want to laugh and be free. I want to find people to be my real friends and let me be me. I am a bit terrified of marriage, but not afraid to love or be in a relationship but friendship is the most important relationship there can be or will be period.)